Meeting someone, deciding to date them, and ultimately knowing that you have found the person you want to be with forever, is all a matter of compatibility. First comes the spark of physical compatibility — the way someone looks and moves, even their scent. The things you like and dislike, the books you read, the music you listen to, the activities you enjoy –all of these things come together to tip the scales one way or the other, to let a potential partner know if you two are right for each other. A woman with a passion for raising dogs is going to have a hard time settling down with a man with terrible allergies, and a man who loves to run and mountain bike is going to spend a lot of time alone if his girlfriend is sedentary. You might not want someone identical in every way, but someone who complements you, someone who you match.
It seem absolutely silly to me that sexual compatibility is not #1 on anyone’s lists when it comes to determining whether or not a relationship is going to work. Sex is a cornerstone of any relationship, and if one partner is not into what turns the other partner on, there is going to be a great deal of tension. Libido, sexual preferences and proclivities, kinks — all of these things matter. If I am going to seriously date and pursue someone, I want to know if we’re a hit in the bedroom right away. Once I know we have sparks there, then I am interested in learning about her personality.
This blog is about my quest for a partner. But rather than searching using my heard or head, I am leaping in dick first. Once I find a girl who drives me wild between the sheets, then other factors of compatibility come in to play. Sex is one of the most complicated thing that can happen between two people — doesn’t it make sense to make sure that works for you both, first and foremost?